If you would like to view the 10 Top Myths about Divorce the website is at the end of the quotes. This is in response to Jon and Kate + 8.>
Marriages of the children of divorce have a much higher rate of divorce than
> > the marriages of children from intact families. A major reason for this . .
> > is that children learn about marital commitment or permanence by observing
> > their parents. In the children of divorce, the sense of commitment to a
> > lifelong marriage has been undermined. - 10 Myths of Divorce, National
> > Marriage Project
And, as Jon kept saying....I'm only 32, I don't know what's coming. We KNOW
what's coming Jon & Stepmother Plus Eight......
> > And, when it comes to the kids, it's not just single unwed mothers whose kids
> > struggle. "Most researchers reported that STEPCHILDREN were similar to
> > children living with single mothers on the preponderance of outcome measures
> > and that stepchildren were at greater risk for problems than were children
> > living with both of their married parents." - The Journal of Marriage and
> > Family
Lots of resources here Before you Divorce, like these:
> > Each divorce is the death of a small civilization.
> > Pat Conroy
> > Bad marriages don't cause infidelity; infidelity causes bad marriages.
> > Frank Pittman
> > Our research estimates that 55-60% of marriages that end in divorce fall into
> > the category of "good enough marriages". These marriages appear to be
> > functioning well only a year or so prior to the divorce. From a child's
> > perspective, these divorce are unexpected, inexplicable, and unwelcome and are
> > thus most likely to harm children. These marriages are significantly more
> > likely to divorce because of infidelity, citing explanations of "drifting
> > apart" or "communication problems". They are unlikely to mention abuse because
> > these were not highly conflicted marriages. - Paul Amato, Smart Marriages
> > keynote
> > Money often costs too much.
> > Ralph Waldo Emerson
> > Divorce causes a decrease in wealth that is larger than just splitting a
> > couple¹s assets in half. Divorce drops a person's wealth by an average of 77%.
> > And, contrary to popular belief, the research shows that the wealth status of
> > divorced men wasn¹t significantly better than that of divorced women, in terms
> > of real money. Divorce devastates your wealth. By the same token, married
> > people see an increase in wealth that is more than just adding the assets of
> > two single people. If you really want to increase your wealth, get married and
> > stay married. - Jay Zagorsky, Ohio State, Journal of Sociology, Jan 2006
> > The Top Ten Myths of Divorce - by David Popenoe
> > http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/pubtoptenmyths.htm
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Father's Day
I know I am late with this post. I hope you enjoy.
- FATHER'S DAY QUOTES
Make your own card. Delight him with one of these. I think my favorite is
the one by Homer Simpson. - diane
It is much easier to become a father than to be one. - Kent Nerburn
What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child - it's the courage
to raise one. . . . Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are
reminded today that family is the most important. And we are called to
recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation.
President Barack Obama
I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich. - M*A*S*H,
Colonel Potter
I talk and talk and talk, and I haven't taught people in 50 years what my
father taught by example in one week. -- Mario Cuomo
I watched a small man with thick calluses on both hands work fifteen and
sixteen hours a day. I saw him once literally bleed from the bottoms of his
feet, a man who came here uneducated, alone, unable to speak the language,
who taught me all I needed to know about faith and hard work by the simple
eloquence of his example. -- Mario Cuomo
A father is a guy who has snapshots in his wallet where his money used to
be. - Unknown
A man's children and his garden both reflect the amount of weeding done
during the growing season. - Anonymous
. . . in the end, there is nothing a man can do that a woman can't, except
be a father.
Frank Pittman
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's
protection. - Sigmond Freud
A king, realizing his incompetence, can either delegate or abdicate his
duties. A father can do neither. If only sons could see the paradox, they
would understand the dilemma. - Marlene Dietrich
If the past cannot teach the present and the father cannot teach the son,
then history need not have bothered to go on, and the world has wasted a
great deal of time. - Russell Hoban
My father died many years ago, and yet when something special happens to me,
I talk to him secretly not really knowing whether he hears, but it makes me
feel better to half believe it.-- Natasha Josefowitz
A man knows when he is growing old because he begins to look like his
father. - Gabriel García Márquez
Are we not like two volumes of one book? - Marceline Desbordes-Valmore
Small boy's definition of Father's Day: It's just like Mother's Day only you
don't spend so much. -- Unknown
It is instructive that 87 percent of those incarcerated in American prisons
either don't know who their father is or have not had any contact with their
fathers in years. - Herbert London, Hudson Institute
"I won't lie to you, fatherhood isn't easy like motherhood." – Homer
Simpson
You don't get hugged by the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. . . I want what
everybody else wants: to love and to be loved, and to have a family.
Billy Joe
-------------------------------------------ow I am late with this posting. I thought the quotes were cute.
- FATHER'S DAY QUOTES
Make your own card. Delight him with one of these. I think my favorite is
the one by Homer Simpson. - diane
It is much easier to become a father than to be one. - Kent Nerburn
What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child - it's the courage
to raise one. . . . Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are
reminded today that family is the most important. And we are called to
recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation.
President Barack Obama
I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich. - M*A*S*H,
Colonel Potter
I talk and talk and talk, and I haven't taught people in 50 years what my
father taught by example in one week. -- Mario Cuomo
I watched a small man with thick calluses on both hands work fifteen and
sixteen hours a day. I saw him once literally bleed from the bottoms of his
feet, a man who came here uneducated, alone, unable to speak the language,
who taught me all I needed to know about faith and hard work by the simple
eloquence of his example. -- Mario Cuomo
A father is a guy who has snapshots in his wallet where his money used to
be. - Unknown
A man's children and his garden both reflect the amount of weeding done
during the growing season. - Anonymous
. . . in the end, there is nothing a man can do that a woman can't, except
be a father.
Frank Pittman
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's
protection. - Sigmond Freud
A king, realizing his incompetence, can either delegate or abdicate his
duties. A father can do neither. If only sons could see the paradox, they
would understand the dilemma. - Marlene Dietrich
If the past cannot teach the present and the father cannot teach the son,
then history need not have bothered to go on, and the world has wasted a
great deal of time. - Russell Hoban
My father died many years ago, and yet when something special happens to me,
I talk to him secretly not really knowing whether he hears, but it makes me
feel better to half believe it.-- Natasha Josefowitz
A man knows when he is growing old because he begins to look like his
father. - Gabriel García Márquez
Are we not like two volumes of one book? - Marceline Desbordes-Valmore
Small boy's definition of Father's Day: It's just like Mother's Day only you
don't spend so much. -- Unknown
It is instructive that 87 percent of those incarcerated in American prisons
either don't know who their father is or have not had any contact with their
fathers in years. - Herbert London, Hudson Institute
"I won't lie to you, fatherhood isn't easy like motherhood." – Homer
Simpson
You don't get hugged by the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. . . I want what
everybody else wants: to love and to be loved, and to have a family.
Billy Joe
-------------------------------------------ow I am late with this posting. I thought the quotes were cute.
Divorce Prevention Handbook
This was on the SmartMarriages e-mail. If you are considering a divorce this maybe helpful to you.
FREE: PDF DIVORCE PREVENTION HANDBOOK
Hi Diane,
³Should I Keep Trying to Work It Out? A Guidebook for Individuals and
Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce (and Before)² is now available. This
self-directed, research-based guidebook was developed by the Utah Healthy
Marriage Initiative for couples at the crossroads of divorce. Some of the
information in it is specific to Utah, which has a mandated divorce
orientation education class for divorcing parents. But overall, the
guidebook is relevant to any individuals in this situation. (We are
considering producing a modified national version of the guidebook next
year.) We will be discussing this resource and supporting project in our
session (with Bill Doherty) at the conference. If you want to alert listserv
members to this resource, it is available in pdf form at utahmarriage.org.
(Click on ³Thinking About Divorce?² and then on ³Should I Keep Trying to
Work It Out?²) Or they can order a hard copy for $8. Note that this is a
beta version. We are now recruiting individuals to use the guidebook and
give us feedback so that we can improve it.
Alan Hawkins, Ph.D.
Professor of Family Life
Brigham Young University
hawkinsa@byu.edu
I've also got the free download pdf posted at SmartMarriages.com - once from
the FREE STUFF page and once from the THINKING ABOUT DIVORCE PAGE. -d
> > 716 - Sat July 11, Orlando workshop
> > It's Never Too Late: The Crossroads of Divorce
> > Bill Doherty, PhD, Alan Hawkins, PhD, Tamara Frackrell, JD
> > Learn the lessons from two innovative approaches that work at reconciliation
> > with couples who have already filed for divorce using education, team, and
> > community-based supports.
FREE: PDF DIVORCE PREVENTION HANDBOOK
Hi Diane,
³Should I Keep Trying to Work It Out? A Guidebook for Individuals and
Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce (and Before)² is now available. This
self-directed, research-based guidebook was developed by the Utah Healthy
Marriage Initiative for couples at the crossroads of divorce. Some of the
information in it is specific to Utah, which has a mandated divorce
orientation education class for divorcing parents. But overall, the
guidebook is relevant to any individuals in this situation. (We are
considering producing a modified national version of the guidebook next
year.) We will be discussing this resource and supporting project in our
session (with Bill Doherty) at the conference. If you want to alert listserv
members to this resource, it is available in pdf form at utahmarriage.org.
(Click on ³Thinking About Divorce?² and then on ³Should I Keep Trying to
Work It Out?²) Or they can order a hard copy for $8. Note that this is a
beta version. We are now recruiting individuals to use the guidebook and
give us feedback so that we can improve it.
Alan Hawkins, Ph.D.
Professor of Family Life
Brigham Young University
hawkinsa@byu.edu
I've also got the free download pdf posted at SmartMarriages.com - once from
the FREE STUFF page and once from the THINKING ABOUT DIVORCE PAGE. -d
> > 716 - Sat July 11, Orlando workshop
> > It's Never Too Late: The Crossroads of Divorce
> > Bill Doherty, PhD, Alan Hawkins, PhD, Tamara Frackrell, JD
> > Learn the lessons from two innovative approaches that work at reconciliation
> > with couples who have already filed for divorce using education, team, and
> > community-based supports.
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